There is here a confusion I understand very well but it is a confusion nevertheless: what you are speaking of here is not love. It is sex. Sex can go with love and it is great. But sex can go without love and it is purely physical but hormonal which means mind-controlling. But what I want to say is that love can go without sex perfectly well because love is mental and has no reason to be hormonal if it does not become sexual. I would say, if there is a human evolution at this level, it is the differentiation of the two. We are learning day after day that we can love many people without even being moved sexually: mother, father, other parents, brothers, sisters, and a tremendous number of people onto which we transfer some basic love relations. In that case there is no lust. If we had to have sex with only half the people we love we would be insane in two weeks. On the other hand sex is becoming a tool to pleasure, hormonal pleasure, must and nothing but lust, which is mind-wrecking. All by itself sex is from my point of view very frustrating because I am a mental person. Check “Queer as Folk” (American version) if you want to see the difference between love and sex, sex without love and love without sex. When love meets sex you have something that dynamize you so much that you cannot say 50–50 because you work because you are in love and the eventual sexual side drains your body of many toxins (or some gym work every day will have the same effect), and you love because you are able to succeed in your work. If there is separation your love is sex and nothing else, your love is lust and sex appeal and nothing else.

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Dr Jacques COULARDEAU, PhD in Germanic Linguistics (University Lille III) and ESP Teaching (University Bordeaux II) has been teaching all types of ESP

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