In older generations that fluidity also existed but it was so severely censored that it was all inside and older generations could only either hide itin a closet or lead a double life, including getting married and having children to hide the other side of their coin and living in the dream that the sun shone on that other side and that their daily life was nothing but the dark side of their psyche, dark but “normal.”

These older generations have been doubtful at first and now more and more free about it. But age has become a tremendous barrier for them. Rare are the young men and women who are ready to accept love, both ways, with an older gender fluid man or woman for whom sex is no longer an objective, but for whom love is the door to another third life on earth.

The most difficult element here is that love and gender fluidity do not mean sex. I seem to see sex as being so casual among younger people that it has little meaning beyond the physical side of it, and love is something else, some fluidity in emotions and sentiments that may cross the road of sex or may not. Older generations definitely find it difficult to see that love is an emotion that can be a passion, that it is gender fluid, at times rough, but sex is not the end of it, the objective of it, the target or the goal. Sex may happen and ruin love, it may happen and transcend love, it may not happen and love remains as strong as before.

I am not sure I am totally clear but I have seen over the last fifteen years such a change among younger generations that I may regret not to be of that generation.

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Dr Jacques COULARDEAU, PhD in Germanic Linguistics (University Lille III) and ESP Teaching (University Bordeaux II) has been teaching all types of ESP

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